Aita for telling my sister that no one cares about her child. She tried to get my blessing for them to be together.

Aita for telling my sister that no one cares about her child Had one post a snap that they wanted to kill themselves. Most of my childhood was spent taking care of her children while she My sister and her two kids moved in with us after she was facing homeless after being evicted from her place. Relevant Comments. I told her no. Tell everyone that no one should believe anything she says about you or your partner because she is obsessed with hate right now and you’re not having it. ” I told her that whether or not she agreed, she needed to respect it. Now I pregnant with my 4th child at 41F and my mother(64F) and sister(34F) are begging me to ether Adopt out my baby to her or be her surrogate. My sister and her husband are living together again and in couple's therapy. I do love and support my I babysit for my sister. I’m sorry you lost them. Everyone is acting like OP's sister must be a complete greedy gold-digger etc. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The receptionist told me ‘ I knew what I was doing’ when telling me I shouldn’t ask Jess that around a client. AITA for Telling My Sister Her and Her Baby Are Dead To Me and Told Her To Abort Her Kid After She Insulted My Deceased Child . My sister and her husband came over for dinner the other day, she brought up the fact that I was pregnant with my first child and how she already had 4 about to be 5. I’m also Indian, I waited until my sister ordered all her outfits and confirmed if what I was wearing was okay with her. I told her and my father that from now on I wanted receipts for any money I gave them. Maybe they don't feel like the siblings I grew up with but however it happened we ended up in a situation where our parents found love with each other and we can share that similarity and grow something from there. She has become very clingy with me. My family believed I was infertile for years, Sabotaged my relationship and married my ex off to my newly 18 year old sister. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I may be the asshole because I could have watched my coworkers kids, but I told her no because I'm traveling during the time she needed a babysitter, but they could Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. After a very traumatic birth with my elder one I decided that I'm not ready to go through that again. My entitled cousin is a spoiled brat who is always babied and always gets her way with things and is never punished. My son says I’m being terrible and I need to re-evaluate my life. She may claim that it's because of me, but I think it's because of her husband. who have been kicked out of their homes for being LGBTQI+. She would undermine my wife m, talk bad about her to strangers, post random unflatting images of her online, leave negative reviews at work, and generally acted terrible. Your mom continued to stay for a week after the baby’s birth. This. 2 years into the marriage he cheated on her and they have 2 kids. She’s my sister if she told me to dress down I would. She's a bad sister. My sister is also very tired from hanging out with her friends, so I’m the one who usually takes care of the little My sister said no but she had 3 bags so i took one from her and gave it to the friend. My wife is 14 weeks pregnant, and we are really excited! My sister (25F) and her wife (27F) are also pregnant with their first child. I (17) female has a little sister that is (7) she has brain cancer that is terminal, and she might only lived to the age of 16 ever since we found out about the news of her being terminal three months ago my mom has constantly had her up her butt 24/7 she doesn’t go to school since she’s homeschooled and doing chemo and she goes to work with my mom and get to do a whole lot Moe as for Makenzie, she should have taught her sister to not be a THOT, cheater, liar and manipulator. I told her she should be ashamed and to get over herself. Your mom decided that no one else could meet the baby until she bothered to return. Fantastic-Mango-7440 wrote:. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister I don't want to babysit her future child, now my parents are calling me rude or weird for not wanting to do something I've never been okay with Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. At one point my friend commented that she and her husband follow her on Insta just to laugh at her and they made some pretty rude remarks about her. So it was her turn and she said to the group "I only have 1 low, my sister and mom is sick. People had a lot to say in response. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my ex's daughter that I am not her aunt or her other mom after spending some time trying to avoid that conversation and trying to make my ex have it. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Leaving the house and telling my wife it's her job to babysit the kids 2) Because taking care of kids isn't only her responsibility His son was not happy that his dad moved so far and when the first summer of long distance parenting came he clearly didn't want to be there and showed no excitement or interest in getting to know my sister. Who cares? Listen, I look a lot younger than my sister (we are in our late forties) even though she is only two years older than me. Reply reply FormalDinner7 Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My niece (I'll call her "Tessa") got into ballet first, and she was the one who got my daughter (I'll call her "Emily") interested as well. I don't think you'll tell her she needs to find mom friends, she'll figure it out. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be an asshole because I told my sister it a time to grow up and stop writing childish stuff and she got annoyed with me. She went to her sister’s house and hasn’t been responding to my messages So am I the AH for being honest? UPDATE: I get it, I’m the asshole. My sister got Dad's hair and I got Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my daughter she was being a brat after she made a scene when my 5 year old niece blew out her birthday candles. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I stuck to my word. op NTA - it’s not your child and if your sister is going to treat you like a live-in babysitter, she can pay you like one. How do i protect my family? My mom was very happy with those names, as she ALWAYS talks bad about parents who give their babies weird unique names. But we still wanted more children. The commotion was so great that the reading of the will was postponed. AITA For Yelling At My Sister-in-Law At My Wedding And Telling Her No One Cares That She's Pregnant #pregnant #marriage #sisterinlaw #wedding #family. She started crying and left. I found out because my brother caught the two of them together. I told them no! My sister should apologize for how her son acted at the party. I told my mother it was my sister's fault for pushing her crazy ideas and she knows I don't plan on having kids ever. " Again, these are people who considered sweatpants an appropriate wedding outfit and no one told them to leave or avoided them. My sister and her two kids moved in with us after she was facing homeless after being evicted from her place. Update 2- AITA for telling my niece that her brother will always mean more to me than her and won't help more than what a normal Aunt would unlike did for My sister and mom came to my house screaming that I was ruining my nieces life and if I loved her I would drop this will only solidify in her mind that no one cares about her, My sister has developed a good plan with her doctors and has been stable in her mental health for over a decade. My sister was furious. and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. It's not that hard. Understandable. I told my half sister why my extended family were not at her birthday party and how they are not related to her/part of her family. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole because I told my sister she needs to deal with my kid not sharing or move out even though I know she doesn’t have many options and now she I told my mom and her husband they needed to speak to my sister and tell her to stop mentioning it and I told him to stop letting my sister know he hates not being honored. no one forced op to take the kid in, and if this is how he's gonna act, then he would have been better off staying away. When my sister left I only realised no one knew when I went on a road trip with my cousins at 34 and we talked about things growing up. It was September 23rd and we where doing a high and low, it was finally her turn. So AITA for telling my SIL that no one cares that she is pregnant. To always put my sister first. But she has 3 fucking kids already that want her in their lives. No one knew about her until 2 years ago. Right my arse hole ex had a baby with his gf and she had 2 sons, I worked with him and over heard him telling another colleague of ours who is having his first child with a women who had a kid from a previous relationship, to not bee line his own child over the 1 he's basically raised for years, always greet every child the same and treat them all. Yeah, OP is disturbingly invested as to which one of then looks younger. For as long as a can remember Jane has had this victim mentality. She would insult her physical appearance, her weight, her intelligent, her personality, her friends, her behaviors, her cooking, and anything about my wife. I told my friends that the only reason my parents adopted my “sister “was because they were close with her mother and then when she asked me if my parents actually love her I told her no. So I told her that I won’t give up my room because this has all my stuff and I’m comfortable in my room so her daughter will have to go to the other only available room. especially because kids aren’t a thing that are easy to handle with all the stuff that goes along with being on the spectrum. My husband Rodrigo (35M) died in the army 3 months ago. She has lied about sa multiple times and accused almost all of my boyfriends of sa and we have had cameras in the entire house since we were kids and my sister was hospitalised from year 6 to 8 since she had a really bad tumour and my mom was with her the entire time so she couldn’t have been sa’d. She ended here at our house. Instead, you berated her, telling her that she had no right Thank you! Your’e the first comment i have seen that also criticizes the parent. I told Rachel that nobody cares about her fashion blog or her mathematics competitions, and that she was a self centred bully. She’s being a self-assured, confident, expressive young adult and not afraid to be herself. My wife has recently given birth to my first child, but it is her fourth. and if she were it would have been our mom who would have sa’d her and I am so sorry she announced her pregnancy at your wedding there is no excuse, but as someone who had a miscarriage at just over 5 weeks it was devastating and I do not wish that on anyone I sincerely hope you never have to experience the pain of thinking the baby you want so badly is on its way, and being so happy thinking about the human you are growing and what they will be I see what you're saying, but at the same time, my mum had a sister that passed as a baby. "AITA for telling my sister I'm not the mother of her children?" I'm an 18-year-old female, and I have an older sister, 29, who has two children, ages 8 and 4. Yesterday I got a call from my sister, calling me all kinds of names, an AH included. They thought I was a spoiled kid that got everything because that was the image my mom crafted. #2 Her tragedy is not your life. My family is absolutely massive, and in an attempt to avoid unnecessary confusion, we don't give our kids the same name as other family members. I can somewhat understand an 18/19 yo not fully understanding that a grieving, struggling friend of the same age isn't capable of reaching out, but by 28 she should have better understanding and more empathy. Saying that no one cares that she's black is, at most far fetched. Backstory my cousin (33f) who I’ll call mary lost her husband (32m) and two of her three children (3f) and (9months male) in a car accident last week. One of my kids saw it, This escalated into an argument in which I told her that her children aren’t my responsibility, especially not at 20 years old, and while I don’t have a problem helping out sometimes, I’m not her employee and both can’t (because of autism) and won’t (because I wouldn’t want to if I could) predict what she wants from me in order to wait on her hand and foot. The neighbor said she knows the boys apart and knows who the mom to each is. Plus, it might seem cold, but that will help guard against her excuse that she can’t afford to be on her own. “Hey im outside” From now on, DO NOT ANSWER THE DOOR. Well I saw my sister post on Instagram her babies name announcement, and I was mortified. My sister was in a bad marriage for 20 years with the last 5 being the worst. People cross-post I told my cousin that no one cares about her cousin/family friend's baby was coming to their Greek Easter. But no. My dad took her in and she been living with us since. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my wife her grown kids will need to contribute financially to the household if they want to live here as adults even though she told them they could always I (20f) and my sister (22f) have never really gotten along, with in the last couple of days she announced that she was 7-8 months pregnant. Because of this, my parents took away my phone and said that what I said was not nice to her when she's annoying to no end. My sister got mad at the comment and said I have no right to comment on how she chooses to grieve and that her baby is the last piece of her late husband. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister there’s a reason her kids chose to live with their dad and not her even though I know it was a very sensitive topic for her. My sister gave me attitude about it, saying I was being “insecure” and that “no one cares about tradition anymore. NTA. Completely unreasonable. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: While out for our lunch, I told my sister she chose to have kids herself and now needed to deal with it or stop complaining about being a parent nonstop. Seven years have past and my nieces still live with me. Make a group chat including everyone that lives at your place, your sister and her baby daddy, and tell them explicitly in writing: “as I mentioned to [sister] several times before now, I am no longer looking after [nephew]. By calling her and threatening or actually performing self harm and telling her it was all her fault. Me walking away has caused more issues, including my son refusing to engage with me now. THIS SUBREDDIT IS FOR A PODCAST CALLED Reddit On Wiki, THAT READS REDDIT STORIES. There’s no evidence her dad treated her worse. No one knew the actual abuse I went through No big deal, I just made sure to tell her that she needs to ovulate for that to happen, but other than that I could not care less. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister she was always the favourite and the golden child and said our parents wouldn't normally accept homosexuality if it was my brother and I but since it was I would tell her there is help and tell her she needs to apply so she can get more help for her situation. That happened last week. She told my sister that my son was very sweet and showed no disrespect the way her son did. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: The action is telling my ex that his new wife can’t come with us to son’s college tours and I might be the AH because she “cares” about my son. I always said I never wanted kids of my own even when I was young. It sounds like there has been a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My father had an affair child(15). Your sister is correct that no one can tell her how to feel, but it's disgusting that she still feels like the breakdown of the friendship is the fault of your fiancé. As a parent myself I know my relationship with my children will not look the same when they’re older. I moved to a different state out of college. I love my mom. My middle son told me he’s gonna be an even bigger brother. Jane is not my bio sister but we grew up in the same household. I was experiencing discomfort and wanted my husband by my side when I go into labor but he'd go out every night to hang out at his friend's place and watch football games. I babysat at her house for a couple weeks and the entire time the kids didn’t bathe once, they had no clean clothes, their hair was extremely AITA for not telling my sister that my baby's "name" was always just a joke. AITA for asking my aunt to not bring her kids when she comes to see us? AITA for telling my sister in law i’m not her late sister and she needs to see a therapist? Not the You are not her child to correct or hound. I even tried talking about the gender reveal we are Family drama erupts after sister gushes over her “model child” then calls brother’s new baby hideous causing his emotional outburst. I love them as if they were, but still, they're her kids. She has three kids (all younger than 8) and her house is always extremely filthy. And I agree with them and you. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole because I know I take a little bit different approach to parenting, and that may be harming my child and relationship with my husband. It shouldn’t bother me because she’s her own person and I don’t really care what she does. Your mom showed time and time again that her first niece granddaughter isn't that important to her. Invites us to her things with her, her kids and grandkids. She is saying that I’m being rude and mean to my new little sister and should be reasonable and give her my room and be the bigger person and act my age and not a little kid. Not it does not. And there’s no allegedly needed btw. You don’t need your mother’s approval you are the adult woman in your house. Okay. My niece has now been officially introduced to a few members of her paternal size and they all love her. My sister started seeing someone from outside our culture too, but no one really cares. She chose to carve her own path and turn her back on our ways - nobody forced her to stick to our customs, so she can't force us to stickto our end of the deal. My niece (10), “Sofia,” is a pretty When i said “no one cares about your trauma” i really meant “i don’t care” but sadly ‘no one’ came up instead. I called and profusely apologized but she said she would think of my comments every time I look at her and it’s something she can’t just forget. My bil picked up my sisters plate and told her to go relax and when he does they can head back home. Again, he was dumb enough to believe her. It sounds more like you're having a difficult time with loneliness & the idea that you're going to experience a lot of your early 20's without your best friend, but you shouldn't be taking that out on her . I have never particularly liked kids. She’s immature. Why? My father started to get gray hairs while he was in his twenties; my mother got them in her sixties. Now she has children, and I'm going to take my life more seriously. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister her baby name is stupid and her husband is right 2) I could've been nicer about it and I refused to talk about it further when she confided in me and I'm still very angry with him, and I'm leaning towards no longer inviting her to our weekly dinners (a big deal to us, especially now). Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. She's choosing the life of a mother, it doesn't make her a bad person to make her life all about her children, you should be proud of her & support her if you want to remain part of her life. Her husband bought out her half of the house during the divorce and that left her and the kids living with my mom in the trailer. Personally, I would have have saved all the messages and responded once with: Next time teach your sister to keep her mouth (kissing) and legs closed (sexually active or not, it sounds good for effect, lol). Some of my family members called me an idiot for making a pregnant woman embarrassed. My sister said "How could you say that to a child?" I walked away from the argument after my son yelled that I "don't care," and refused to engage after that. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister that the way her My sister has now been officially diagnosed with Postpartum Depression and that is the trump card/Hail Mary of the situation. Which, my oldest memory was from when I was 4. She went through his phone and called me and then my mom crying. My sister Kayla (28F) just gave birth five days ago. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1: I told my wife to stop trying to promote her Etsy shop constantly but I was pretty rude in doing so 2: I could tell she was pretty upset by what I told her about people not Also i Inherited a lot from Great Grand Father as he Was hindu and he gave it to me as i was as well i gave my sister 40% of what he gave me and no one is helping with wedding costs AITA for telling my sister that I won’t change my wedding? Edit: A lot of people have asked who has scheduled their wedding 1st, And I have to say it was me. "AITA for telling my pregnant sister to lower her expectations for me as an uncle?" My sister is pregnant with her first child and is very excited about it. She dropped all of what was in her hand and started stomping her feet whining about wanting all of them. I was suspicious though, because there was no way that’s actually what my sister was considering for names. My wife wants to be an influencer on TikTok and YouTube. She also was likely the one who insisted that no child support be paid because that would be “taking away from their family”. 🔔 Subscribe here: https://bit All it takes is one fatal prank or experiment to go wrong with your sister. Her mother apparently went to a prison, none of her known relatives could or wanted to take her in. My dad made me give it back to her so i gave her friend some fruit snacks instead. They didn't listen and just before Christmas my sister came over to tell me yet again that her dad wanted to be honored in my son's name and hates that he wasn't and that he feels hurt. We have actually become close friends with her kids and my kid has with her grandkids. Let her move out. As of today, my sister has 4 children and is currently pregnant with her 5th child, I on the other hand just got pregnant with my 1st child. Looking at my original post, I feel sick, but keeping it up here will hopefully remind me never to say something like this again. Her husband just left her for a woman my age and she is left without his income to raise all three kids on her own. And the author also has a sister, “Nina”, whose daughter “Sofia” has been acting in commercials since early childhood, I like the idea of one baby-friendly event to still reach out a little. So a five ago we adopted My mother in law cares for our family. She asked why and I was honest and said that I don't trust her because of all of her comments throughout my pregnancy and her refusal to hand my daughter back to me like I requested when she was here so no, she wasn't allowed around my baby at Image credits: NinaChild The dad lost it and yelled at the sister in her daughter’s presence – and then they stormed out in anger. We had a French substitute teach come into class(11th grade) a few years back and someone said the dude was "hawt". Subreddit My sister is a single mother with 2 children. AITA For Invalidating My Sister's Feelings By Telling Her That No One Cares How She Got Pregnant #reddit #stories #shortstories #pregnancy #pregnant #sister. We gave you a place to stay. Today was the reading of my grandma's will and Lara was there, since she is still legally the daughter of my parents and the lawyer did not want to read my grandmother's will without And let’s face it, men are weak, dumb and easily manipulated, so he believed her. It’s not her baby I wouldn’t let her near my child. My sister hasn't really spoken to me in a few days, just posted passive aggressive things on social media which I just blocked her. You're 19. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I told my father’s wife that I didn’t care about him being in the hospital. She and her BF live with our parents, and I temporarily moved in as well (it's a very big house) because I hated being alone and my parents have been very supportive. Hmmn. My sister is in individual counseling. Probably would get downvoted, but who cares? NTA. It wasn’t negotiable. My second mom buys my kid gifts on his birthday. to ask for money from the adoptive parents, but no one is considering that the rich people who were clearly using their riches to wine and dine a young woman into giving them her children might be manipulative in other ways and have promised help they had no intention of giving her, and she might have I told her what my aunt said. My sister married her husband(29) Scott about 5 years ago and when she introduced him to us he was very charming we all liked him. And I just can’t comprehend that weird jealousy. They have 2 kids 17 & 18. AITA for telling my sister that she She wanted to share her feelings with you,her sister, and asked for empathy, not "pity". You have nothing to do with it except for feeling sympathy for her and you shouldn't be the one telling her that, it would sound like an Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Music | http I could tell it was hurting my wife, so I tried to start a conversation to include her but it always went back to my sister and my SIL’s baby. And I know that's a lot to take on. Just you. AITA here? Edit: Just to clear up somethings in the comments. She’s getting a higher education, she is married and a mom to 3 children. My sister turned 18 last December, and had actually gotten a scholarship, so we were all excited. Racism still exists. My mother is a teacher and couldn't raise us on her salary alone, so he was our main financial supporter even after the divorce. I did not tell my sister this as well. And embarrassing for my sister. the kid has been orphaned, abandoned by his grandparents, and taken in by the dad who doesn't want him and has made it clear he didn't and still doesn't want him. I was always very close with my sister, and my wife was too. And maybe your insane SIL, but that's it. She saw how her dad was with a baby/toddler in her 30s and she has no memories of being treated the same way. My sister was all surprised pikachu face at the time and couldn't believe he was so dismissive of her when they met. I told her to consider herself down one sister and I told her I never wanted to see her again. " I (20m) and my sister (23) have been very close since she lost her baby. AITA for telling my sister that her baby isn’t the only one that matters? I (32M) am expecting my second child with my (30F) wife. r/AITA - In today's Reddit stories, a Sister In Law forgets she's at a funeral and a child is blamed for not watching a child. My gf of 4 years broke up with me and now I see why. She aced her A levels, and graduated top of her class. I went through exhausting period while I was nearing my due date. I have been estranged from my sister ever since she carried out an affair with my ex-fiance. you cannot take a kid in the use the threat of sending them away to try and get them to behave. The 7 year old is a boy while the other 1 is a girl. My Sister "Lucy" 34F, is a waitress and has three kids (M4, M3, M2). Lara left her contact information with my grandmother's attorney. I can't erase the past and hopefully make the right decisions in the future I do hope I can start over with my sister again one day and learn about her as a person. Thanks for watching! Art prints available on my Etsy shop: StarVingartCompanyCity Life by Artificial. My sister and her husband have been together for two years, and I can see that he's a very When this woman's sister called her out for the unusual baby name she planned to give her baby, she got seriously offended. An 11, and 7 year old. She works a lot, and doesn't have a lot of money to afford babysitting, so I started watching her kids for her for free. At the end of the dinner my mom picked up my dads plate, I picked up my husband plate, and I was expecting my sister to pick up her husbands plate. The only exceptions to this are my one uncle, who is named after his dad. So I might be the asshole for telling her. And she let me dictate my terms on her level of involvement in my life. Your mom went to her sister. My mom had me and my brother at 35 weeks, she wound up one-upping my dad's sister (whom my mom can't stand) twice - getting pregnant with twins (uncommon in our family- my mom was on fertility treatments) AFTER my aunt announced she was pregnant with my cousin, and then having us two days before my cousin was born. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My bio mom requested money from me and I told her that no, I won't help her no matter how much she needs it, because she is always looking to get money from me. She kept trying to bait our parents into saying something, but they just told her to do what makes her happy. Then one kid called them Nazi sympathizers and started throwing rulers and pens at him, poor guy didn't even understand like complete english especially if some 17 year old name Rquellian was blurting out random dis shit toward him. I neglected my mental health for 7 years, ignored my needs and never asked my parents for help. Once we moved from my hometown to Birmingham, my wife and sister called almost every single day. as though they're your own, i don't The day after my mother called me telling me I should have just drank at the party because I ruined my sister's gender reveal and now everyone is worried about me and mad at my sister about pushing me to drink. There was a minute where they were suspicious of me as well, but since I had insisted on testing my biological children at birth due to issues from my own childhood, this was over before it began. AITA? Her and my brother left a bit after and my mom talked with me in private telling me she knew i didn't want kids but she told me i could've handeled things better. Months ago, when I sent out the dress code, I made it very clear: no one wears white but me. I'm happy for her because she really wants to be a mom. Now since Valentina is kind of serious about her GF, she said she was going to tell her mother soon. Its a lot of background information to inform readers on how much I’ve been Embark on an introspective journey as we delve into the complex dynamics of family relationships in our video titled, "AITA for telling my sister that no one "AITA for telling my sister that I don't care about the baby she lost. Eventually she broke up with this guy. They want to get married in autumn. She said she gave us all the same opportunity, and it's not anyone's fault she didn't use hers wisely. She lost the baby at the end of 2022, when she was about 5 months pregnant. “AITA For Telling My Sister That Her Baby Name Is Weird?” | Bored Panda Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app You've been helping her for years, even tried to leave her abusive relationship, but she was (stupidly) stubborn and stuck with him, and despite all of her struggles to give birth, she should've been at least 1% happy for you, but instead, she cuts you off, and I know that she had the right to feel somewhat upset and jealous, but her reaction was way uncalled for, and she even refuses AITA for telling my SIL no cares that she’s pregnant? “I’m on mobile and my grammar will probably be bad because after today I needed to to get drunk. Music | http My younger sister used to live nearby, and our daughters (mine is 6, hers is 7) went to the same ballet school for a little over a year. 550 votes, 79 comments. A few weeks ago my sister told me, that her boyfriend proposed to her. My niece (10), “Sofia,” is a pretty AITA for telling my sister that no one cares about her child? My wife, “Emily,” gave birth to our lovely daughter 5 months ago and she is just a joy. Sounds like we have a golden child on our hands. AITA for telling my sister that no one cares about her child? My wife, “Emily,” gave birth to our lovely daughter 5 months ago and she is just a joy. " so just because she shared that I covered my ears to mock her and said "OH ”Monday June 3rd comes around at 8:55 I get a call from my sister’s partner. Insinuating as if it was my fault, that’s when I completely lost it, I messaged her telling her if child protective services are involved it’s because she lacks good parental skills, I also went on with telling her that they had nine months to prepare for their baby, to get their finances in order, to save for a vehicle etc. So, I’m a 15 year old girl who lives with my mother and stepfather, my sister (Sally) is 30 and has a son (Wally) who is now 20 months old. 3 days ago, my sister came into my room without knocking while I was talking to my friends about her and she heard me. Well, she asked me last week if she could come "steal the baby away" for some snuggles. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be the asshole because what I said was very harsh and blunt, and Maggie may not necessarily have meant to attack me or my wedding in the first place. she’s going to continue to take advantage of you if you don’t set clear boundaries and allow yourself to say no, or ask her to give you a My dad is my side, and is tired of her taking up their house, my mom is a little more sympathetic and saying I should allow her to have a plus one because thats what you do for adults. That was the final straw for me. So the OP bought a wig in an awful mushroom cut style and wore it when she saw her sister, No. Their wedding invitations had no date, no RSVP and full typed out web browser links on the back rather than "We are registered at Amazon". 2. My sister sees them regularly, but she never wanted to get custody for them. My mom has even met my second mom. "AITA For Telling My Sister That She Shouldn't Overvalue Herself And Prepare For The Worst?" Popular-Valuable-243. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. When she told me this is something she wanted to do I didn’t have a problem with I only said that I don’t want Ignoring it won't make the problem go away, so the way I see it is that you have two ways to shut this down: 1) keep telling her to knock it off and that no one cares, or 2) watch a documentary with her, specifically one in which they show animals being slaughtered, and make sure to say at the end: Wow, I really need a cheeseburger right now. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: TLDR: I’m estranged from my family and have been since I was a teen, my sister remained in contact with me long enough to feed information to our abusers and this Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. She tried to get my blessing for them to be together. And one of my cousins, who is named after one of my great uncles who died in a car accident back in the 70s. My sister and her wife did IVF, and my sister is 38 weeks pregnant. AITA for telling my sister that no one cares that shes black . I wouldn’t remember either. My other sister suggested that I tell her what I wanted and needed to keep her as my sister. "AITA for cutting off my sister and telling her she’s no longer welcome in my house after threatening to sue me?" So I (26F) have a "sister" (31f) let's Call her Jane. I started going to a monthly ladies' craft beer club when my baby was one month old, breastfed. 175K subscribers in the redditonwiki community. She started crying and my dad said that they weren't children and didn't answer to me. I love my sister, but since I've gotten pregnant our relationship has been strained. Marnie asked me if her kids would have to live under the shadow of Brooke too. What started to get annoying, is when we were talking about all the activities/ excursions people The only person who has been less than elated to say the least, has been my sister (24). I can see how "oh I had a baby sister called Stephanie When my sis and BIL left, I asked my brother why he said to my sister and he said "because no one cares" to which I replied "you're such an ass, how about the fact that no one cares that you got broken up with, hurts doesn't it?" He got pissed and stormed off and I was scolded by my mom essentially telling me that what I was said was AHish. I hate her. I said I have no problem helping them but I will be damned if I work my ass off for her to give my money to my piece of shit brother. No one else cares. There should be no circumstance where its one child’s Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. The baby doesn't care. She could have still hung out without the baby, she is just choosing not to. She got the call your sister was in labor, and your mom still chose to stay with your aunt. The cow that was slaughtered was one that my husband gave as part of my marriage agreement: her husband never did that so there's no cow to kill. She has been creating mommy content and content about her day to day life. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister i wouldn't accommodate her needs for our wedding, I fear that that make me an asshole. It was very dramatic and rocked the entire family. I get that it’s a very difficult situation, but she needs to step up and be responsible for her child now. I understand because my parents ended a marriage after 35 years and they both found partners with kids, on one side adult kids my age and the other side young kids. . I asked her if she was truly prepared to be a single mother even though it would ruin any chance of her moving on since no man wants to date a single mom. Sadly. She needs to take responsibility for her children because no one told her to have them, and she can't look after them. You can mend fences later, if you feel like it. I (30F) am 8 months pregnant with my first child, it's a boy. But she makes her preference for Malcolm is more than clear. I recently got to meet her current girlfriend (28F) when I was visiting her. When my stepchildren were 12 and 13, it came out that they were not biologically my husband's. My husband and the guests who were at the party are on my side. AITA for not telling him mum died, cutting him off, and considering doing the same to my sister? Edit: it has become clear that only giving Max and Ann names was a mistake. I told her she was being incredibly selfish and until she goes through a loss like this, she’ll never understand. It was constant and relentless. With her first pregnancy her family were very critical of the baby names she liked so she just started giving her children ridiculous fake names, defending them furiously, and then (to everyone's Also yes, of course YTA for telling her no one cares about her bad news! But she's also TA for behaving this way, especially if it's not confirmed news and it looks like a cry for attention. It sounds like this person is not your friend, so maybe apologize for My husband and I have two (5F) and (8M) children. The neighbor told her that thanking someone (my son) for picking something up for her does not warrant being yelled at and cursed at by a small child. AITA for telling my sister I won't be helping her after she announced she was pregnant again? It's one thing to enjoy having children, it's another to have them with the expectation that someone else will essentially raise them. She’s nice to us when my dad is present, other wise, she’s a fucking bitch. This made Rachel cry, and when my sister showed up Rachel hugged her and told her what I said. I bet if you surveyed my cousin's less than half would know that, if it had never come up. I have to repeatedly tell her my wife and I are not watching you kids. There was no RSVP. Spending $600 on just my sister her kids and a date when she's not seeing anyone seriously just seems ridiculous to me though. She was likely the one who saw your Facebook post and blocked you. A short clip from my Reddit AITA videos. With the announcement came some very odd rules, Like I can’t have junk food in my house if she’s over, I can’t have my cat around her he needs to be locked away, I can’t have pop cans in the fridge, and a few other along with the My parents divorced when I was 7 years old, and my mom had primary custody of me and my sister, but we still went to his place several times a week. She works and just lives her life. The fact that Jack's mom would never meet her niece is something that Jack would never get over and he is right. That was 10 years ago, she’s now turned her life completely around and is super successful and has a new baby! Change is possible, but she has to take onus for her actions and one apology over a life time of fucking you over, should NOT absolve her of consequences. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I believe I might be the AH because I handled the situation poorly by yelling at my niece and sister, and should have been more polite according to my mother. So, the Original Poster (OP) says that he and his wife have a 5-month-old daughter, and they, of course, dote on her. I (21f) Have an older sister "Eve" (29f) who had her first child, "Lori" (1f) and while this should be a time of joy an excitement there's actually a lot of tension and brewing resentment between her, our mom, and her husband "Jack" (29m). This hurt her and she's only a kid, with no kind of extended family in her life, no big community who is there for her, like I have. Calling for white slavery is unhinged though. My sister doesn't owe me forgiveness. To me, it seems like she sees them as my children. but even if it takes her 20 years to learn it who cares that is the best she can do, My mom even gave my bil a hug and thanked him for taking such good care of her. My oldest son chose not to tell me because he knew I wouldn’t take it well. AITA for telling my sister NO to looking after her baby . We have to constantly remind her to clean up after her and her children and not let her kids destroy I gave birth to my son 10 weeks ago. gfxm bva egg kze ahv taykz tzkjfybbb seq ounags fdbjze